How to get more pleasuere from your arse

Don’t be afraid of your arse. There are lots of ways to get anal pleasure – both alone and with a partner. The wide range of sexual practices start with a simple caress or applying light pressure and superficial stimulation of the anus, the perineum and the base of the penis with the hand, knuckles, fingers, toes, nose, tongue, dildo, vibrator, etc. Casually when taking a bath, solo or with your partner. Maybe as part of a more daring play applying some oil, or some ice cubes or even honey or creme patissiere to the whole area.

Beyond kissing, eating and some mild to wild tongue stimulation, there are lots of options to take your search for pleasure to new heights or perhaps that should be depths:

• A well lubricated finger in search of a prostate for the blushing beginner or three and maybe four for the seasoned man?
• What about a dildo all shapes and sizes, a vibrating prostate stimulator, a plug that stays put and stimulates for a longer period of time, even beyond the sexual encounter?
• What about combining anal stimulation with fucking or getting a good old blow job.
• Ever tried a set of three to five geisha balls that provides not only the thrill of wider insertion but also delicious repeated pleasure on their way out?
• If you are bi curious, what about getting penetrated by another man?

How men can be multi-orgasmic

More intense, intimate and deep experiences of anal pleasure are to be found in the practice of prostate stimulation and the achievement of dry orgasms. Here the man learns to separate ejaculation from orgasm and becomes therefore multi-orgasmic, gets acquainted with the concept and practice of regenerative full body orgasms, full body sensuality and sexuality. The depleting release of semen is no longer his goal but the repeated orgasmic achievement that will keep his sensuality open and flowing even beyond the sexual encounter. Want to find out more? I can help. See below.

What about fisting?

The full intensity in anal play is achieved through the practice of fisting in which by the insertion of a hand, sexual stimulation goes into the deepest possible and utter most intimate part of our beings generating a unique sense of communion. In this practice the man opens up his body to the gentle invasion of his partner, in full agreement and trust, experiencing a heightened degree of sensual and sexual ecstasy.

There are strong emotional and spiritual aspects to this practice that will appear as the practice deepens. According to some eastern traditions this practice directly stimulates the root and sacral chakras from a pure western - anatomical point of view the same nerve endings that give sensation to the sexual organs also innervate the anal area and the rectum.

Going from the kinky, sexy, taboo-braking-experience of anal touch for the male to the challenge of being penetrated and finally to enjoy a deeper, spiritual and emotionally unambiguous anal sexuality is a wonderful journey. Are you ready to start?

Breaking the taboo about anal pleasure

Male Anal Pleasure is often shrouded in taboos and prohibitions and often represents a real challenge to the identity of a man and that of his sexual partners too. The heterosexual man fears becoming gay, the gay man fears becoming a slut, the fister wonders if getting a fist is unnatural or even psychologically unhealthy. And yet the anal area externally and internally has the same nerve endings that provide sensation to the sexual organs, otherwise said, the anus and the surrounding external and internal area is a sexual organ nothing more natural and legitimate than using it as such. What’s stopping you?

My own path to anal sensuality and sexuality

In my own journey, I had to negotiate all sort of taboos and prohibitions that unequivocally prohibit mentioning, talking or inquiring about the anus and its role as a sexual organ. Even today when talking with uninhibited  adults, the mere mention of the anus elicits anything from nervous laughter, whispering, certain shame, jokes and even direct attempts to kill the subject.

As with many other aspects of human sexuality, taboos and shame are rather inefficient at shutting down such an obvious source of sexual pleasure, if anything they spice it up with a rather delicious sense of naughtiness that enhances its magic.

Through personal experimentation on my own and with my sexual partners my discovery of anal sex became a sort of a treasure hunt where I got clues here and there about the marvels of the prostate and the perineum, the male multi-orgasmic potential and from rather exciting stories about men getting fists inserted up the elbow and beyond. I have also discovered a strong spiritual element of this practice!

It is thanks to experienced, loving and generous mentors over the past twenty-five years that I have deepened my knowledge and love for anal sex. As of late, I have been studying anatomy and the latest scientific papers in order to ground my practical knowledge.

Expert help and advice

If you want to open the pleasure box of your anus and you would like coaching or your partner is nervous or reluctant and would like training and supervision, I can help. I will accompany you in all stages, introduce you to safe practices, talk with you and your partner about the challenges and share my experience. My service is open to men: gay, queer and heterosexual, singles and couples

It might be a one to one session, or within your couple. A simple consultation or a full practical workshop. I am available to accompany you in this exciting journey where sensuality and sexuality reaches the highs of sexual freedom and spiritual live.